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Monday, February 25, 2013

Never Leave Your Job Because of a Few Assholes

I was having a conversation with a co-worker several weeks ago. She told me that she was having a problem with a few fellow co-workers. Just to truncate the particulars on her situation, this woman feels like she is being bullied and taken advantage of. She went on to tell me that she is considering quitting her job because of this. When she told me this, I shook my head in disbelief. In these tough economic times when it is more difficult to find a job, who would just up and quit a job without another job lined up? Who would quit a job over a few low level assholes?


It turns out that she decided not to quit her job (at least in the short term). The advice that I gave to this co-worker was this: Fight for your job and put those assholes in their places. There are ways to do this without getting yourself in hot water and without enduring much drama. By the way, the suggestions that I make from here on out assumes that the “asshole” is not your supervisor or in a position of authority over you. If your supervisor is an asshole then you might want to take a slightly different approach, which I don’t discuss here.


If someone is making your life hell on the job, then you should identify what it is that this person is doing. Document each instance that this behavior occurs, so that you will have some evidence of what has occurred. Keep track of exactly what the offender has said or done to bother you, as well as the date and time. It’s almost like you are building up a case against the person. If you have to bring this to the attention of a supervisor then, the documentation makes you look more credible.

The next step is to talk directly and privately to the offender about his or her behavior. That is-if you feel that the offender is even approachable. If you believe that you can have a mature discussion with the offender, then go for it. Tell this person in a diplomatic, yet stern manner that the offensive behavior needs to end. Give the offender specific examples of his or her behavior in order to help him or her understand what you are referring to.

The offender is either going to apologize for the behavior and stop or pretend that he or she doesn’t know what you are talking about and even amplifies the offensive behaviors. I call the later, “game playing” or “being spiteful“. Most people who are normal will feel remorse for the bad behaviors, but there are a small group of individuals that have personality disorders or they have low levels of emotional intelligence. Some of these people are not capable or feeling remorse and there is very little that you can do to help them to change.

Hopefully, the issue should be resolved after a brief discussion. If not, you should follow the chain of command and then complain to your supervisor about it (remember to bring your documentation). Your supervisor will probably talk to the offender about his or her behavior and document the discussion. Most of the time, this should do the trick. Again, a normal thinking person will usually see the error of his or her ways. If the behavior continues, then go back to the supervisor with your complaint. Your supervisor will have to take corrective actions to see to it that the situation does not repeat itself. Otherwise, you will need to go above your supervisor’s head or human resources to see to it that once and for all, the situation is resolved.

I am going to suggest that we should not take filing complaints against co-workers lightly. It may backfire on you if you are filing petty complaints and in the future you may not be taken seriously. You don't want to come across as a thin-skinned individual who complains about the least little thing. Also, when you react in an overly emotional way to people that get on your nerves, you will have shown that person how to pull your strings. So, try to ignore minor assholes and this will intern work the minor assholes' nerves. Choose your battles very wisely.


Sometimes you have to let minor offense go. An example of a minor offense would be, a co-worker doesn’t respond to you when you say “Good morning”. Or, a co-worker gives you a dirty look from time to time. In my opinion, these are very trivial behaviors that should be ignored. Once in a while, people do things that are rude or offensive because they might be having personal problems or a bad day. It is not always about you personally.

This reminds of something that I read in a book called “The Four Agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz. One of the four agreements is “Don’t take anything personally”. If you subscribe to this idea at least somewhat, you will probably eliminate a lot of stressors in you life.


In the same breath, there are some things that we should not let go, such as sexual harassment, manipulation, humiliation, defamation of character, sabotage, threats of violence, etc. These are things that could interfere with your ability to do your job. They could also have a very negative impact on your physical and psychological well being. Also, you may find yourself in a situation where you have to “nip it in the bud” stages, before it snowballs out of control. If you are experiencing any of this on the part of a co-worker, then it is time to stand up for yourself. You deserve to do your job and be treated with respect and dignity.

© Copyright 2013 Susan Broadbelt

 www.thewhimsicalmusingsofsusan.com



Mini CVS Haul All Laundry Detergent

CVS haul, All laundry detergents


One day, I was on my way to do my laundry, when I discovered that I left the laundry detergent at home. Well, instead of doubling back home to get the laundry detergent, I went to CVS and purchased some more detergent. You might think that this is a waste of money, but I know how to get these things for fairly cheap. I usually keep a stack of clipped coupons with me in an envelope. I went through my coupons looking for some on laundry detergents and quickly found some. There were a couple of coupons in the stack for All laundry detergent that happened to be expiring very soon.


I went through the CVS sales circular as well and noted that there was a “buy one get one free” sale on All laundry detergent this week (from Sunday, February 17, 2013 through Saturday, February 23, 2013). I picked out two bottles of All laundry detergent, used one manufacturer coupon from the newspaper insert, and 1 CVS Extrabucks reward during this shopping haul. Select bottles of All laundry detergent were priced at $7.99 that week. Please note that this sale is no longer in effect.

Transaction breakdown:

1 bottle of All Oxi-Active Stainlifter liquid detergent, Waterfall scent, 50 fl.Oz. $7.99

1 bottle of All Stainlifters liquid detergent, Free Clear, 50 fl.oz.                          -$7.99

6% sales tax                                                                                                                  $.48

Subtotal before coupons, Extrabucks, etc. were applied                                 $8.47


1 CVS Extrabucks reward redeemed                                                                     -$5.00

1 manufacturer coupon for $2.00 off any two All detergents                              -$2.00

Final total after coupons, Extrabucks, etc. were applied                                $1.47

Therefore, I paid an average of $.74 for each bottle of All detergent (including the sales tax). I didn’t earn any Extrabucks rewards for the purchases this week. Aside from the fact that there was a strange dude hanging around the shopping plaza begging for money, I feel good about the shopping trip. I can’t stand it when people hang around shopping centers trying to hit people up for money, but that’s another blog post. Anyways, I saved a good amount of money and didn’t have to make a trip back home for laundry detergent.



© Copyright 2013 Susan Broadbelt

 www.thewhimsicalmusingsofsusan.com



Tuesday, February 5, 2013

Review of Aveeno Active Naturals Skin Relief Calming Lotion with Cooling Action

Aveeno Active Naturals
Skin Relief Calming Lotion
with Cooling Action



Aveeno Active Naturals Skin Relief Calming Lotion with Cooling Action is manufactured by Johnson and Johnson Consumer Products Company. I purchased this product on sale at CVS/Pharmacy for $4.99 in a 7.0 oz. (198g) bottle. If you want to know the truth, I actually got the product for much cheaper than $4.99 and I explain this in another blog post. It usually runs in the price range of $7 to $9 (depending on where it is purchased). There are usually lots of coupons available in the newspaper inserts for Aveeno products. This product comes in a flexible, flip cap bottle which makes it very convenient for travel.

The lotion is a crème or beige color and has a nice consistency (not watery and not too thick). Aveeno Active Naturals Skin Relief Calming Lotion, with cooling action smells strange. The best way to describe the scent is maybe mint like or medicine-like. I wouldn’t describe the scent as anything remotely fragrant and I am not exactly thrilled by it. The product does contain menthol, so this might explain the peculiar scent.

I am not an avid user of Aveeno Active Naturals products. Although it is called “Active Naturals”, I don’t consider this to be a natural product per se. It does contain a few natural ingredients, such as Shea butter and oat extracts. I have tried
Aveeno Active Naturals Anti-Itch Cream with 1% hydrocortisone and experienced good results, though. As far as this product goes, I have a mixed view on it. According to the information on the bottle, this lotion is steroid free and provides “immediate and lasting moisture relief for itch, extra-dry skin.

The thing that I like about this product is that it is not greasy feeling at all and it absorbs into the skin fast. The lotion immediately gives a cooling, soothing sensation after application. I think that it provides adequate moisture to normal to moderately dry skin. So it works very well on most of my body.

However, anyone who is a regular reader of this blog is aware that I have severely dry skin on my hands. The skin condition has not been officially diagnosed by a dermatologist, but I suspect that I have either eczema of the hands or contact dermatitis. When I apply this product to my hands, there is a definite relief of the dryness and itchiness, but it is very short lived. It is as if the lotion is sucked in quickly by the skin cells and then 15 minutes later, my skin is very dry again.

So, I can’t recommend the product for people whom have extremely dry skin. I doubt that this product would help with itchiness due to allergies, but I am not an expert. If your problems are that severe, then it is best to see a dermatologist for a prescription. The product is dermatologist tested, but I haven’t seen any information that suggests that it is hypoallergenic. It contains petrolatum, so it isn’t a product that I would put on my acne-prone face. I do think that Aveeno Active Naturals Skin Relief Calming Lotion with Cooling Action can be a good product for persons with normal skin. That’s if you can deal with the weird scent.

Active Ingredient: Dimethicone 1.3% (Skin protectant)

Inactive Ingredients: water, glycerin, distearyldimonium chloride, petrolatum, isopropyl palmitate, cetyl alcohol, avena sativa (oat) kernel flour, benzyl alcohol, steareth-20, chlorphenesin, menthol, cetyl hydroxyethylcellulose, avena sativa (oat) kernel oil, butyrospermum parkii (shea) butter, avena sativa (oat) kernel extract, sodium chloride

If you have any question or comments about this product call 1-866-428-3366 or visit
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Friday, February 1, 2013

Never Miss a Golden Opportunity to Shut the Hell Up!!!


Some people don’t know how to be quiet. They are usually fidgety and have the impulse to talk incessantly about things that aren’t that important and they suffer from diarrhea of the mouth. This is a real problem, because the words coming out of a person’s mouth could cause major problems in life. As someone that I know once said, “Your mouth is the most powerful thing on your body. Your mouth can bring a life into this world, and it can take one out of this world”. Hence people should really think before speaking and choose their words carefully.

I will give you three classic categories of people that can’t shut up or control their mouth. They are: the complainer, the gossip, and the rebel. I have worked with and encountered people that fall under these categories.

The complainer is the type of person that whines about anything under the sun.  They have a pessimistic outlook on life and take note of all the negative apsects of everthying, everywhere. I am currently working with a person that does this non-stop. She will overrun you in a conversion in order to continue complaining and won't allow you to get a word in edgewise.


She drives everyone on the job crazy with her complaints. My head spins every time I hear her complaining about something. It is at the point now where people avoid her because of the non-stop complaints. I don’t understand why she does this. Sometimes I think that she loves to hear herself speak, she is miserable, or that she wants attention. The woman complained about an icemaker for about three minutes until someone changed the subject on her. Nobody wants to hear that crap.

Her biggest complaint is about her job.  The way that I see it, is like this:  She ought to be thankful that she has a source of income for the time being.  She needs to see the positive aspects of her job, instead of overanalyzing the negatives.  I avoid her, just like my other colleagues do.  If you listen to a complainer long enough, you will begin to adopt the complainer's attitudes.  I don't want to be poisoned with that negativity in my life.  Hell, I have my own problems.

The gossip enjoys getting into other people’s business and spreading rumors. Again, most people don’t want to hear that crap. I try to avoid people that gossip, because they aren’t usually trustworthy people. Some of them try and “fish” for information about others. In other words, they might make negative statements about a person or a situation, which may or may not be true. It is done mostly with the intent to illicit a reaction from you and/or to get you to talk about it. The gossip might even take what you have to say about the person or situation and then spread it. This is how they get you entangled in the “he said, she said”, bullshit. I think that on some level, that it is a game for the gossip that he or she probably gets kicks from. So, when I suspect that someone is a gossip, I don’t engage in conversation with that person. A gossip’s credibility is weak with me.

The rebel is a person that disagrees with or rebels against everything. I know this type very well, since I am related to a few knuckleheads that are like this. This woman that I used to work with was a rebel. She seemed to have constant problems with authority figures for some reason. She also disagreed and liked to debate with others a lot. There is nothing wrong with disagreeing with others, but there is a way to do it. You have to know how to “agree to disagree”, which she didn’t understand. Oftentimes, when she disagreed with someone about something, she could not back down and end up in heated arguments over nothing. It seemed that she always had to have the last word in a discussion.

Anyways, this woman got into it with her supervisor one day. She ended up blowing up in front of everyone, including customers. It ultimately cost her a job. Had she just kept her mouth shut, she would have still been working, since she was otherwise, a good employee. There are many things that I would like to say to customers or even my supervisors. But, I bite my tongue, because I want my job. The moral of the story: Never miss a golden opportunity to shut the hell up.


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