Never Miss a Golden Opportunity to Shut the Hell Up!!!

Some people don’t know how to be quiet. They are usually fidgety and have the impulse to talk incessantly about things that aren’t that important and they suffer from diarrhea of the mouth. This is a real problem, because the words coming out of a person’s mouth could cause major problems in life. As someone that I know once said, “Your mouth is the most powerful thing on your body. Your mouth can bring a life into this world, and it can take one out of this world”. Hence people should really think before speaking and choose their words carefully.

I will give you three classic categories of people that can’t shut up or control their mouth. They are: the complainer, the gossip, and the rebel. I have worked with and encountered people that fall under these categories.

The complainer is the type of person that whines about anything under the sun.  They have a pessimistic outlook on life and take note of all the negative apsects of everthying, everywhere. I am currently working with a person that does this non-stop. She will overrun you in a conversion in order to continue complaining and won't allow you to get a word in edgewise.

She drives everyone on the job crazy with her complaints. My head spins every time I hear her complaining about something. It is at the point now where people avoid her because of the non-stop complaints. I don’t understand why she does this. Sometimes I think that she loves to hear herself speak, she is miserable, or that she wants attention. The woman complained about an icemaker for about three minutes until someone changed the subject on her. Nobody wants to hear that crap.

Her biggest complaint is about her job.  The way that I see it, is like this:  She ought to be thankful that she has a source of income for the time being.  She needs to see the positive aspects of her job, instead of overanalyzing the negatives.  I avoid her, just like my other colleagues do.  If you listen to a complainer long enough, you will begin to adopt the complainer's attitudes.  I don't want to be poisoned with that negativity in my life.  Hell, I have my own problems.

The gossip enjoys getting into other people’s business and spreading rumors. Again, most people don’t want to hear that crap. I try to avoid people that gossip, because they aren’t usually trustworthy people. Some of them try and “fish” for information about others. In other words, they might make negative statements about a person or a situation, which may or may not be true. It is done mostly with the intent to illicit a reaction from you and/or to get you to talk about it. The gossip might even take what you have to say about the person or situation and then spread it. This is how they get you entangled in the “he said, she said”, bullshit. I think that on some level, that it is a game for the gossip that he or she probably gets kicks from. So, when I suspect that someone is a gossip, I don’t engage in conversation with that person. A gossip’s credibility is weak with me.

The rebel is a person that disagrees with or rebels against everything. I know this type very well, since I am related to a few knuckleheads that are like this. This woman that I used to work with was a rebel. She seemed to have constant problems with authority figures for some reason. She also disagreed and liked to debate with others a lot. There is nothing wrong with disagreeing with others, but there is a way to do it. You have to know how to “agree to disagree”, which she didn’t understand. Oftentimes, when she disagreed with someone about something, she could not back down and end up in heated arguments over nothing. It seemed that she always had to have the last word in a discussion.

Anyways, this woman got into it with her supervisor one day. She ended up blowing up in front of everyone, including customers. It ultimately cost her a job. Had she just kept her mouth shut, she would have still been working, since she was otherwise, a good employee. There are many things that I would like to say to customers or even my supervisors. But, I bite my tongue, because I want my job. The moral of the story: Never miss a golden opportunity to shut the hell up.


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