Some Men play Games and Some Women Fall For It

I was reflecting on a conversation that I had with a lady who I used to work with.  We became friends and she used to tell me a lot of stuff about her personal life and past.  Well, there was this guy that worked for the same company that she was in a relationship with.   Just to throw a little flavor into the mix, I’ll tell you that my friend is a White woman from up North somewhere in the United States and her boyfriend is from Haiti.   They are both in their forties but I think that she is a little older than him.  I will call her Sharon and him Pierre (not their real names).

So, Sharon was really upset because she had to break up with Pierre because she found out that he was a dog.  What happened was that Pierre tried to holler at a couple of Black female co-workers.  They both came back and told Sharon about it.  The first time that he did it, she gave him a pass because she thought that the first woman Pierre hollered at was a skank.  She figured that the woman was jealous and trying to break them up.  Then, a few years later he pulled the same thing with another Black female co-worker.  The difference is that Sharon was good friends with this particular woman.  Sharon felt confident that the woman was telling the truth. 

He tried to holler at her co-workers. Marinade on that for a few seconds. Where they do that at? If you're going to be a man trick, then at least be a smart trick and mess with someone from out of town or someone that your partner doesn't know.  It shows that he doesn't hold women in high regard. Therefore, Sharon kicked Pierre’s ass to the curb- with the quickness.

As she recounted the story to me, I tried to remain impartial and understanding.  At the same time, I couldn’t help but think that Sharon is a bit naïve.  There’s a couple of reasons why I came to this conclusion.  First off, I could’ve told her that dude was a trick from the moment she told me that he is from Haiti.  That’s not saying that all Haitian guys are womanizers.  But, I think that Caribbean island men have a reputation for infidelity and trickin’. 

I know because my dad is from the Caribbean and he was a serious pussy hound back in the day.  I am just keeping it real.  I used to be in relationships a few Jamaican guys.  They had some good Jamrock dick but I have strong suspicions about whether they were faithful.

Getting back to Sharon…  I think that she is a really sweet woman but I can also tell from her demeanor, that she has self-esteem issues.  She has had a difficult life and I think that these things took a toll on her.  People who have self-esteem issues tend to attract people who are opportunistic.  Being that she is a White woman, I feel that Pierre thought that Sharon was his cash cow.

And Sharon told me that she had helped him out with some recurring bills in the past and that she intended to take out a business loan on his behalf because he has bad credit.  This tells me Sharon is gullible and that Pierre is possibly a manipulator.  These types of things are usually the other way around, with the man helping out his lady.  There's nothing wrong with a woman giving her man some financial support sometimes, especially if they are married or their relationship is serious and committed. But, I just can’t respect a man who is always asking his lady for financial support.

The other thing that Sharon told me is that Pierre never invited her over to his home after more than three years of being in the relationship.  They always met in hotels and public spaces.  That should have been a red flag to Sharon.  When she told me that I was like "Girl, you couldn't see that he was treating YOU like a side piece?" 

If your significant other isn’t inviting you over to their place then, he or she is most likely cheating or hiding something.  To top if off, Sharon later found out that Pierre was living with his baby mama.  Hmmm... I could have told her that a long time ago.  I peep game.